[The original post went up on the Australian Romance Readers Blog https://australianromancereaders.wordpress.com/2020/12/27/guest-blogger-elsa-winckler-4/]
‘Opposites attract’ is a trope often used in romances and I love writing about it, probably because many moons ago I fell for a guy so very different from me. He comes from a very quiet, well-behaved family. Nobody yells, nobody talks loudly, nobody cries of laugh out loud and certain topics, like pregnancy for instance, simply weren’t discussed.
My people, on the other hand, are very loud, not always well-behaved, there are no sensitive topics, we holler, we cry over everything and we laugh without filters. Hubby was and still is a huge Beatles fan, I prefer Elvis and I love country music. The gorier a movie the better for him, my threshold is Murder she wrote.
But the chemistry was strong, our core values were the same and in the end love won. But I can tell you – the first few years of our lives together were interesting.
While the first thing we consciously notice when we meet someone is their physical appearance, what determines the degree to which we find them attractive is something that lies much deeper. There is an invisible feeling, a subconscious awareness that identifies and respond to a specific person.
Interesting studies have also been done about the role our senses play when we meet someone (e.g. Wedekind’s ‘sweaty t-shirt study https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claus_Wedekind and Athur Aron’s study about couples staring into one another’s eyes https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167297234003) showing how intricate the process of falling in love actually is.
I’ve used this trope of ‘opposites attract’ in Love, in writing, one of the first stories I’ve written. It will be re-released in January 2021 by Inkspell Publishing. The heroine is a romance writer, the hero writes science fiction, she loves her family, believes in happy-ever-afters and is looking for the fairytale. He, on the other hand, is cynical about love and life in general, doesn’t believe happy-ever-afters exist and is definitely not looking for something so ridiculous as a fairytale.
But when they meet, stars align, hearts sigh and something happens they can’t seem to stop no matter how hard they try.
I hope you enjoy reading their story as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it.
Wishing you all a wonderful 2021!